College is not about having boyfriends. Not because you are finally out of your parent’s cage you have to have boyfriend already. Not because you are “being an adult” you have to have a boyfriend already. Not because all your friends have boyfriend you have to have boyfriend already. Not because you’re in college you have to have boyfriend already. Woman, college is not a speed-dating sponsored shit.
Basically, you were sent to college because your parents wanted to invest more on your education, because if they didn’t wanted to invest more, they should’ve been just contented with your High School diploma. But they enrolled you now into a university; they are spending thousands and thousands that they should’ve just used traveling or even for their health care. So don’t mess up! You are here to study and have good grades!
Also, you were sent away from home and you were now living in a dorm because your parents wanted you to experience independence and they think that being nearer to your school is way better than commuting many miles back and forth, 5-6 days a week. They probably have a room alone for you, because they believe that silence will be better for you to concentrate more on your studies. That dorm wasn’t made to be a sex den for you and your block mates.
I know that college is a new environment, new sets of people with new sets of beliefs. It’s difficult to generalize the student population if we possess different characteristics and beliefs. It’s okay to experiment, because that is your life. It’s okay how many boyfriend you get on your college, because that’s your life.
But never put up a joke to someone saying; “Have a boyfriend! You’re in college already!” because that’s not your life to live in. People have different reasons why they are still single right now, and you don’t have to care about it. Even if you say that I’m just being a friend you still don’t have to say that, because probably she’s up to college because of her own reasons— that she wanted to study— not to have her radar on to different Engineering guys there.
In my opinion, boyfriend in college is not important. It doesn’t give you A+ on your transcript depending on how you handle relationship with your boyfriend. Studying in college is the new trend. Concentration, Memorization, Studying and Motivations are all piled up in College, and if you will include relationship problems onto it, it will all just collapse and it will definitely stop you from reaching the star that you were created to reach.
You might feel out of place when they start talking about boyfriends and crushes, but let them feel out of place when it’s just you and the professor who understand everything.